Hi MooSayTheCat,
I was not clear enough, it is really a 6th sense and what makes me in chock is that I can sense theires intent to use me for own purposes, it can be what ever you can imagen, like make me do therires work, even they are capable to do it them selves, or to use me economically, or what ever you can imagen...what allerts in me...if I say No then they will say I do not care and I am cold and not helping...I Always want to help, but I do not want to be used, and it is here the chock kicks in...when they do not need any help but are just using me....it is here I do not dare to expose them, because of my experiences in my childhood, so instead I have learned to do it what they ask, to keep the Peace.
So I hope I was more clear this time

Love
ia