Psychic Vampires, etc. (was: Casting Love)
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Originally Posted by OlderWiser
So I suppose my caution would be to just be aware that this practice can bring about intentions in ways you might not expect... ;)
Yikes! That sounds like a touchy situation with your mother. I wish you both well! Thanks for the note of caution. I don't have any experience dealing with energy vampires or psychic shielding or anything like that. I still feel like an innocent n00b. Where do I start? And which end of the sword do I hold again? :lol:
--Kelsey
Re: Psychic Vampires, etc. (was: Casting Love)
Editing note: In a somewhat complicated attempt to split a topic that was over more than one page, this post kind of got chopped off. I couldn't work out how to merge it back, so I've copied it verbatum and posted below. -OW
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Originally Posted by VioletImagery
Thanks for the information, CFTraveler! It was quite helpful.
So, once you can detect energy vampires and they are no longer affecting you (or not very much, anyway), how do you deal with them? I will have this supervisor for the next 4 years and I don't want to just put up with his abuse the way his other students do. I want to have a more mutual working relationship than that, but I don't know how willing he will be. I am waiting for his response to my email where I suggested meeting to establish some overall expectations for my work for the duration of the program (I just started my PhD this fall).
--Kelsey
Re: Psychic Vampires, etc. (was: Casting Love)
Abuse is a classic tool of the psychic vampire. Sometimes it's verbal/emotional, but it can also include physical abuse and other forms of manipulation and control. What they do is get you "stirred up" so it raises your emotional energy, then they batter you (emotionally, physically, whatever) just enough to keep you feeling helpless against them. When they want to drain you, they rile you up again, and hold you down at the same time. It's an extremely unpleasant situation to be in, to say the least.
Not all psychic vampires employ overt abuse, but it's fairly common. Some just deliberately provoke emotional responses (such as internet trolls). Some are more subtle, and will form a "friendship" with the victim and build a connection and then slowly demand more and more energy.
In this case, with the abusive supervisor, I'd say start shielding NOW. I'd actually go so far as to create a specific shield that has his name on it and forbids all spiritual/psychic connection.
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Ditto that. I'd use a mirror shield if they are very mean, cut cords with them (which is prob. stickied here) and work on not being 'stirred up' by them. By knowing that's what they are doing this will help you analyze 'as coldly and analytically as possible' and find ways to avoid contact when you don't have to address them.
A lot of 'nonviolent communication' practices are very helpful, as long as you don't find yoruself expending lots of energy on this, although it is initially helpful. So I'd say a multi-pronged approach is best.
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Thanks for all the advice, OlderWiser and CFTraveler! I feel much better prepared now!
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Originally Posted by OlderWiser
I'd actually go so far as to create a specific shield that has his name on it and forbids all spiritual/psychic connection.
Can you tell me how to do this specifically? Like I said, this is totally new to me. Thanks!
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Originally Posted by CFTraveler
I'd use a mirror shield if they are very mean,
Like the kids rhyme "I'm rubber and you're glue..."? Maybe the kids are on to something. :D
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and find ways to avoid contact when you don't have to address them.
Well, it's not too late for me to change supervisors. Maybe I should consider it.
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So I'd say a multi-pronged approach is best.
Yes, you've given me a good variety of tips. Thank you!