Originally Posted by
Korpo
Hello, niki123.
You could start lessening the anger by seeing that the harm others are causing you is because of their immaturity. They don't know better, not from the heart. Only if you know better in your heart you can act better. You notice this disparity as you know better and don't act the same. Acknowledge this and accept your own inner knowledge.
Then think about the situation at hand, all the separate ongoing dramas and crisis. What do they have in common? How could you have prevented them? Were there early signs or messages you've ignored? What kind of behavioural change could prevent this from occuring again?
Then visualise having acted like that in the past. How you would have acted back then if you knew what you know now. Maybe write that down. This can also serve as a template for guiding future actions - like how to pick your next apartment.
See if you then can forgive others for their immaturity. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you might have made. Try to see if you can transform your attitudes and your approach to things in a way so that this won't repeat, and if you can manage that, realise that there has indeed been important learning - no matter how the challenging and stressful the situation was, if you can walk out of it valueing yourself enough to properly protect yourself in the future and taking care of yourself better, then you have accomplished a big thing.
Take care,
Oliver
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