Re: Invisible now I think
Yeah, I feel invisible all the time.
This happens when I'm in groups. Sometimes I say things, and people don't answer. At other times, I answer peoples questions, but it's like they don't hear me. Some other guy can say the exact same thing later, and then they react. Also, when I'm in a group and have to leave, sometimes no one notices that I'm leaving, although I say: "Goodbye" out loud and clear.
At other times, people seem to misinterpret what I'm saying. Their answer can be totally irrelevant to my question. It's like we're talking about completely different things. It's pretty amazing how little the words matter in communication. I don't know if it's because people only hear what the want to, or if I'm sending out conflicting signals and energy subconsciously that calls for misinterpretation.
I don't think it's something people do on purpose, and I have stopped feeling offended by it. Nowadays I really don't mind. I doubt they mean any harm, they're just not paying attention. Whatever their reason, it's theirs to deal with. My own reaction is my own, so I deal with that.
edit:
Sometimes what you see in other people is actually the projections you put on them, which reflects back how you experience and think about yourself unconsciously. Feeling invisible in this way can be an expression of a lack of appreciation for yourself.
I've also recieved the excellent advice that this might simply be a question of common ground. If your reality differs a lot from theirs, your points of reference might not be the same, and thus communication can be more difficult. Things that matter to them might no longer matter to you, etc.
I feel I am rambling on now, please excuse me.
John
...but my words like silent raindrops fell
and echoed in the wells of silence.
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