We're working toward St Catherine of Siena, who was told in a vision of God, "I am He Who Is. You are She Who is Not." I got chills the first time I read that and while I think good old St Catherine was at least partly insane and I don't want to go there (been there, thanks, not much fun), I understand directly a good deal of what she reported as far as visions and experiences of the Divine.

Oh, and on topic to this board in general, St Catherine of Siena was a saint (a Catholic nun, no less) who experienced profound out of body experiences among her many strange visitations and visions.

But, yes, we're moving toward She Who is Not, and removing what's left of my self (identity) from the equation. When there are no more attachments to bits and pieces of identity, there will be no need for surrender, methinks.