As regards discussing these matters with one's friends, I have lately taken the radical stance that if I can't talk about what really matters to me, then I am in the wrong company. I'd rather have no "friends" than pretend to be other than the way I am, nowadays. . . I spent too many years trying to please others & fit in with their perceptions because I didn't want to upset anyone. I am not good at small talk in general, & often find it boring in it's petty personal specifics; am becoming ever more reclusive.
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