Boundaries- the thing that keeps your emotions yours; that keeps you from getting your feelings of well being to come from yourself and not others, the things that keep your feelings of adequacy from your own achievements and not others'.

For example, take the 'stage mom'- the mother who wanted to be a performer but because of life circumstances couldn't, and now push their baby daughters into pageants and such inappropriate shows, regardless of whether the children actually want to participate in such things, because they don't consider the children anything but extensions of their own being, for example.

I just wanted to reiterate, this is not my opinion, it's just what your dream is telling me.