it says basicly everything you said, with definitions, examples, meditations to overcome, analysis of personality with true self present etc
by Deborah Benstead and Storm Constantine
it was the first book i read and it was this book that directed me into exploring ego and patterns, and i use their workshop succesfully to this day

without it, it was just, gosh, i can start doing full body circuit in 7 hours (i just moved through NEW and everything was active and running, i never did anything in that direction before )
i have several further points, but don't have time right now, will edit this post