Help me get the love of my life back

[arundios]

I suggest it's not a funny one, and may be hurtful, considering the emotional grieving he's going through.

It IS hurtful, but at the same time I also need a few laughs rather badly at this stage, so it's all good. She stole away a lot of things from me, my heart, my happiness, my peace...you name it. Sometimes I wish I'd not loved her so much, then she could not have given me this much pain, but the past is past.

[CFTraveler]

[ButterflyWoman]

She stole away a lot of things from me, my heart, my happiness, my peace...you name it. Sometimes I wish I'd not loved her so much, then she could not have given me this much pain, but the past is past.

I want to point something out to you. I want you to take it the way I intend it (with compassion, but I'm not pulling any punches).

You GAVE her those things. You made her the condition for your happiness. So when she went... well...

I'm only pointing this out because it's a fantastic opportunity to learn, and, trust me, the sooner you really get that you can't make anyone or anything into your condition for being happy, the happier you'll actually be. *hugs*

[arundios]

I want to point something out to you. I want you to take it the way I intend it (with compassion, but I'm not pulling any punches).

You GAVE her those things. You made her the condition for your happiness. So when she went... well...

I'm only pointing this out because it's a fantastic opportunity to learn, and, trust me, the sooner you really get that you can't make anyone or anything into your condition for being happy, the happier you'll actually be. *hugs*

Yes I know what you mean. Instead of looking for emotional anchor in others I should be my own emotional anchor. Sounds like a marathon run to me.

[ButterflyWoman]

Sounds like a marathon run to me.

It is. But it's worth it.