This is not quite true, and it's a lot of pressure to put on someone. I'm speaking from personal experience, here. I still don't really love myself, especially, though I understand myself well, at least now.
When I met my husband, who is the perfect lid for this pot, I was married to someone else and I was right on the verge of a breakdown. I most emphatically did not love myself. Rather the opposite. My then-husband was one of the things that I lost during that very rough period of transformation, but my friendship with the man who is my husband now was one of the things that got me through it.
We've been together for a couple of decades now, still happy with each other, still very much in love. If I'd held myself to the restriction that I couldn't manifest a true, solid, and loving life partner (which my ex was not, unfortunately) until I loved myself, I'd be single now, because there would have come a point where I realised I was okay on my own and I just stopped looking and stopped being open to that kind of relationship.
So while I understand the sentiment behind "love yourself", and I most definitely recommend that you work on being able to do that (lot easier to live with yourself that way, I mean, think about it), it's NOT a requirement.
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