Originally Posted by
Sorlac
As you know, I very recently lost my mom to cancer. It's been rough lately, trying to deal. The day she left us, it was extremely hard to deal. The next day, it was very hard, the next day it was almost bearable. Today, it's like a lingering ache that's always there.
One of the things that seems to heal is time. I don't know why this works, but it does. For a few days I absolutely refused to think about what happened and distracted myself as much as possible. This seemed to help.
Later, when you feel ready, you can confort what happened. You can do this however you like. It can be seen as the 'turning point' where you accept what has happened and make the choice to move on. Some people never reach this point and are haunted by the memory of the event for the rest of their lives.
My personal goal when I attempt this step is to turn that depressing moment where she left us into a different type of moment. I am certainly not ready to make it a 'cheerful' moment, but maybe I can change it into a moment of acceptance. Hypothetically, then whenever I would think of that moment I'd realize she had done what she was here to do and therefore had moved on. Later I might change it into a different type of moment or event. That's all I know about it right now.
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