How much choice is involved in the process of reincarnation?

[Wallbridge]

I'm looking forward to a brand new life when I pass on, and was hoping I had some modicum of control over who I would be. Mostly, I was hoping I could incarnate into the life of a young man left in foster care so I could learn the tenents of compassion, charity and self-reliance, then start a life of travel and service for the remainder of the life.

What do you all think? Would I be able to elbow-nudge the ol' higher self enough to get my next life wish granted? Could we come to some sort of compromise between the HS' soul desires and my own desire for boundless freedom and service for others?

[Chrysalis]

I believe we get a say, from everything that I've read.