"how to expand your love' by the 14th Dalai Lama (that's the current dalai lama) was a very useful book for me in a time of my life when i felt a bit incapable of love. it has alot of really good meditations and explains how most people day to day definition of love is very superficial and selfish for example you love somone because they are nice to you, they are pleasant presances for you to be around, you gain joy by being around them. while on the other hand you hate somone who makes you feel bad, or doesn't help you, or doesn't make you feel good. it is selfish to base love around what people do for you. you should love everyone equally, from your mother, to the president, to your best friend, to fidel castro. god is love-love is god!