Newfreedom:
>Also i have been spending alot of time in dreams with Tod, only they haven't been particularly pleasant ones, so maybe the dream me is not familiar withnot having Tod around and therefore being with Tod in this lucid dream was not unusual for me in a feeling sense.....

yes, though i rather would name it a bit different in that i think our dream-I`s do very well know that we as whole-soul-beings are never sperated from each other in last truth, so when we dream-meet a beloved being who has gone to the other-side our true-selfs just feel this natural as our true-selves never ever have lost this connection on an energetic/soul-level and so will not be surprised or perceive anything as "unusual".

Newfreedom:
>Perhaps he is with me more than i know, maybe i should feel and look for him more within my mind..

for sure I think so, not neccessarily but naturally as you both have become energetically such a close union. And anyway it takes time, i think somehow on both sides. Now after 5 years I only dream-meet my Aticat very rarely, cause I did/could let go, but in the first years I did regularily focus-exercises to connect me to him in the other world. Best way for me was this *gazing/peering*-technique, also described by Don Juan in Carlos Castanedas books, just looking without focus into the dark, being silent/meditative inside and without wanting to "see" anything. Our other animals in the house (who were missing Ati as well) did very often kind accompanie me sitting in the backyard, even sometimes somehow "showing" me that now is a good time and energy to go gazing+connecting, that was very mystical and comforting for me as well.

Newfreedom:
> ... i assumed i really had physically moved into this position and it had not just been my energy body.
With this understanding in mind i struggled to get fully conscious so i could get out of this 'rolled up position', only to awake properly to find my arms by my side and lying down flat on my bed.

so in my eyes that in fact was an exit of an OBE but which was not conscious and the whole exit-process then was interrupted by your doubts about that you`ve already seperated from your body. Would you see/say the same?

You are having so many fantastic experiences, always great to read for me, thanks for sharing!