I think in this instance your subconscious may be taking things a little too literally and serving up a different type of experience than the one you desire- it occurred to me that in English the word "intimacy", at least in colloquial usage can be used to mean either 'knowing each other completely and without barriers' or 'sexually'. So when you are desiring a more intimate relationship with your Higher aspects, your subconscious may be interpreting it differently and giving you a sexual encounter with your anima. Of course, I don't know if this is the case in your native language, but it can happen in English.
Either that or there is some sort of barrier that has to do with your relationship with the opposite sex translating into your relationship with your nondominant hemisphere.
Anyway, it's a thought.