Re: I'm down and need help
Quite honestly, there ARE some family situations where the best and only course of action is to do what you've mentioned: LEAVE. I do suggest that this should be a last resort, of course, because cutting ties with family is a very long process and quite energy intensive, plus emotionally a roller coaster (yes, this is the voice of experience!). But persistently toxic people, especially ones with whom you have a lot of psychic ties that go back a long way, will poison you. You have to decide if you can prevent the poisoning (I decided I could not; they were in no way inclined to change ANYTHING about their relationship with me or their own attitudes and I couldn't continue being continually poisoned if I wanted to heal and grow), and if the relationships are worth saving at all (sometimes they are, sometimes not).
Would you want to hang out with these people if not for the family connection? Do you have anything in common aside from a shared history and the label "family" (and possibly DNA)? Are you trying to maintain the relationships due to a sense of guilt, duty, obligation, etc., or because you genuinely want to maintain the relationships? And so on.
I can't tell you what to do. I will, however, suggest that you need to seriously think about the nature of your relationships with your family, and I will assure you that while it might be seen as drastic by a lot of people, it is something that some people feel they MUST do, and it does, eventually, prove to be positive. I'll also note that unless you leave by burning a lot of bridges and making a big drama out of it, you can, often, rekindle family relationships at some point if you feel you want to.
I will also absolutely recommend for your own peace of mind and well-being that you need to start doing tie-cutting rituals immediately, and also (important!) practice psychic shielding. As you cut, there will almost certainly be backlash, so it's important to have shielding in place. And keep cutting and keep shielding until it becomes second nature.
And if you decide to continue in these relationships, I still recommend tie-cutting and shielding. If a tie is meant to be there, it is easily (and sometimes unintentionally) re-established. The shielding will help in all circumstances, and it's a good habit to be in. So start there, and then assess your relationships and decide as you go. There's no rush. Protect yourself first.
I hear you. I wish you healing and peace.
May the light surround you, may you be blessed. May the light surround us, may we be blessed. May love and light surround us all, and may we all be healed and blessed. And so it is, and so it shall be, now and ever after.
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